John Spencer Ellis on Why Men Over 40 Need to Finally Invest in Themselves
You've spent two decades investing in everything except yourself. The career got your best hours. The family got your weekends. The mortgage got your financial margin. The obligations got whatever remained. Every decision filtered through the same question: what do others need from me? Now you're somewhere past 40, and the account you've been withdrawing from—your own health, energy, and wellbeing—is overdrawn . The body is breaking down. The mind is foggy. The motivation that once felt automatic has disappeared. You've been so busy providing for everyone else that you forgot to maintain the person doing the providing. This isn't selfishness catching up with you. It's self-neglect. And it's hitting men over 40 with brutal consistency. The Provider Trap and Men's Health Men are conditioned to measure their worth through what they provide. Financial security. Stability. Problem-solving. Strength others can lean on. This conditioning works well en...